I have always been sort of a rebel. When I was little my grandma used to pull me aside to remind me that I am “fabulous” and I would look at her like she was a crazy woman. I was a little bit of homely smacked with freckles and a toothy smile. I was the dorky version of Pippi Long-stocking. Really. What looked cool on Pippi make me look like a circus reject.
As a minister’s child I wore the rejects of every person in our church, openly so they knew how much we appreciated them. I know, there seems to be a slight feeling of resentment in that sentence so you did read it rightly. Of course we appreciated the nice intentions, it was just hard to wear them sometimes and be constantly reminded ”That old thing used to be my favorite dress.” The smile on my face was pinched and painful.
Later on in life I got a job just as soon as I was legally allowed to and half my check went to my parents and the other half I spent on clothes. I was in heaven. Overtime? Sure–that means new shoes. I was one motivated clothes horse in the making. Who knew how obsessed I would become with shoes later in life?
As soon as my grandmother showed me how to sew I was whipping out clothes left and right. I would cut, sew and wear and outfit the same day. I was a clothes obsessed woman. “Fashion” was something I dreamt of. It was my focus in life at the time to look “put together” and make a “fashion statement.” My parents on the other hand were just praying I would stay modest and prim. How does one be modest and prim while being fashionable?
I, of course would have to whack out the path for others to follow. Perhaps I have pioneer blood. Fashionable was something I seemed insistent upon locating or at least discovering. When you are already limited, a budget then seems to add to the challenge. This hayseed was going to be fashionable one way or the other. My parents were very concerned about the “other.”
My parents surprised me right before school started by telling me to take my whole check and go buy myself school clothes. I was sure I heard a herald of angels sing because obviously I was in heaven. All day long I meticulously planned my outing for the next day, mapping out our tiny mini mall in our little town.
The next morning I was out of the house and down there in a flash. They don’t open until 10am? That is absurd! I sat there for three hours and waited; dreaming of a thousand looks of stylish that a silly dork from the country could imagine. I had big hopes for my little paycheck.
My thoughts ran back to the advice in fashion which the most fashionable woman in my life had bestowed upon me. My grandma. I know you didn’t see that one coming did you. A grandma? She was tall, lean and had a smile that beamed. Grandma would pull me aside and offer advice that now just seemed logical but back then it was a revelation. This woman was cool. She could do the splits at age 45!
Fashion according to Grandma: Never wear two prints together. No white before a certain day and no black after. Always wear hose with a skirt. Stick with a solid for bottoms and prints for tops so you have more flexibility. I sat there ticking off the rules in my head, making sure I stayed on course. Number one rule was always “How many ways can you wear this with what you already have?”
When the mall finally opened I froze in my tracks. What if I went in and saw so many beautiful things that I couldn’t make a decision? I gave myself a time limit and told myself not to buy anything at all until I had gone into each store. Wow. Was I wound up tight or what?
I stuck to my plan,checked out each store and then sat in the middle of our tiny mall when my time was up, then considered everything I had saw and tried on. Carefully I put together outfits in my head until I was satisfied and then made my purchases and headed home from my triumphant shopping extravaganza.
Excited to show my parents and bursting with pride I pulled out my purchases as they stood there waiting patiently. Their eyes were filled with shock and disbelief. Why? Because I pulled from the shopping bags one screaming yellow pair of overalls, three striped t-shirts, jeans, and a pair of Nikes that were screaming yellow and green.
They probably thought my fashion statement was somewhere between Mork (From Mork and Mindy) and that Pippi person I disliked so much. My parents were speechless and that is saying a lot. I sat there all animated telling them all the outfits I could make with what I had plus my new pieces. In fact, I was so excited that I missed it when my Dad said “Holy Crap.”
Later I came out of my fashion fog and grew out of these prizes, I handed them down to my younger sister who wore them as proudly as I had. Much to the chagrin of our parents those yellow overalls never fell apart and in fact they seemed impervious to stains and rips. They were blessed by the fashion angels.
Now many MANY years later I think of this fondly and add to it my “Madonna” stage, the time I “just knew” pink and brown were going to be big (I was right), and of course that time I had to have pointy-toed pumps in every color. Never mind that they looked hurt like heck. My Bo-Derek hair-do must be the most noteworthy of all and the most perplexing.
Last month my daughter dyed her beautiful natural auburn hair bright blue, which over auburn translated to green. While I mourned her hair I knew this would pass and sure enough it did. I guess a boyfriend’s Mom telling her is looked bad meant it was truth. Forget about the fact I had already said that.
When I complained to my Mom she smiled and just said, “Well it isn’t some ugly bright yellow pair of overalls.” Seems I will never get away from Pippi.
Benefit
so brilliant
1More stories please and if you have it hidden away a photo of you in those bright yellow overalls. i hope it matches the one in my head. Just curious, what did granny say about them?
My mother forbid me to die my auburn hair any color, so my sister died her brown hair the rainbow plus more.
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"I will marshal all the forces of darkness to hound you to an assisted suicide." - In the Loop
I love the story it brings back memories...of the disco scarves my mother thought would get caught on something and choke me to death.I was just a little girl but they were so bright and fashionable at the time.Fashion and it phases are someting a little girl never outgrows!!
Your story is great!!
3very sweet. I was so happy myself when I got to pick out my own clothes.
4Ah yes! This story makes me cringe, remembering my surrender to the color prism of clothes in sheer abandon. My mother certainly wore moderately colorful clothes and even my father's ties were a panorama of color, but we were always encouraged to dress with restraint. When I went away to college and found out I knew everything, I decided that vivid colors were a way in which life ought to be expressed.
5As I later discovered about most things, I had an introduction to the subject matter, but was lacking the big picture. I must have looked like a paint truck that had been hit by an IUD. I dyed my hair blond, wearing it like a panoply and insisted that it looked wonderful...and because I let everyone know what I thought first, I had to discover the real truth for myself: blond looked absolutely wretched on me and my color coordination clothes cleverness would have embarrassed a Miami Beach tourist.
Like so many other things, I took a long time to find out what worked best, even with a fashion coach. It was a slow process by which I discovered that wincing was not a sign of respect. Concerning the hand-me-down clothes, my situation wasn't as bad as yours, Cheeky, but I still hated them. The funny thing is now I pay for the option as I love thrift stores. Go figure!
Thanks for the walk down the memories.
I love thrift stores but I rarely wear what I buy there.
For several years I would go in and buy beautiful sweaters--clean them carefully--and then make pillow covers out of them. They were soft and beautiful. I sold them for a while at a consignment store and I could never make them fast enough.
I am the reigning champion of re-purposing things. I can do some marvelous things with paint, glue and nails. I have enough to fill a book on just all the ways I use cloth shower curtains.
Here is a great DIY site that I love. I am thinking of contributing there.
http://readymade.com/projects/categories/build_it
6Cheeky -
Oh, wow.... Your story sounds painfully familiar, except for being a pastor's daughter. (But, now, my hubs is a lay speaker in our church, and fills in when the pastor goes on vakay).
Oh, I had my rainbow phase (others named it my "Punk Brewster" phase). Did the Madonna (80s) thing, too... I also was inspired by Blondie, Joan Jett and others, too.
I still do the bargain hunter thing (flea markets, thrift shops, yard sales, online swapping through swapstyle.com). My hubs calls it "crack cocaine for my wife". When we go on vacations, I look up those things!
It's nice.... I think I've found a kindred spirit!
7I came across an old pic of me that made me cringe. I had on a pair of black and white striped parachute pants, 4 inch wide red belt, black halter top, red pointie-toe pumps and a black/white striped bow in my hair. Nightmare. Let's just say it disappeared.
8Wow...you know I was thinking about how many "themes" my "look" took as I matured.
The disco hot chick look, supermodel wanna-be wild make-up look, Madonna look, my Audrey Hepburn period, a stand-in for Bernadette Peters look, the many years I was platinum blonde because people said it looked great(but they were just being polite)and then finally a look which became "mine"...ME.
9Another great post by you *Cheeky
10Thanks Pink!
My son recently decided everything HAD to be green. Green clothes, painted his room green, and even selected all green school supplies.
Why? I don't know. I am just grateful he wasn't going for the all black goth look.
11I can't stand that goth look. It usually looks so bad on most people.
12In my lifetime I have attended far too many funerals. My Dad was a minister and I often played the piano during the ceremony. It was a sea of black which I have always associated with death.
In Calif. many people don't even bother wearing black to a funeral which just astounds me. Perhaps it was just how I was raised.
A need to be different or to find a person's sense of identity is part of growing up...so I think when a young person associates themselves in the Goth period it is not moving forward--it is as choice to simply be afraid of what may be ahead of them. I see the whole Goth thing as a means to stay in limbo until they are really ready to "find" themselves.
I had a extended family member who went thru a Goth period. Prior to that he seemed lost. He didn't find himself in Goth but it was a "look" tried for a couple years and eventually grew out of it. Unfortunately he can't outgrow the many tattoos he accumulated.
My daughter's green hair has finally grown out and is long gone. I am thankful that it was merely something she tried on for a while. Lord knows I tried on many looks. My "BIG" hair period still haunts me.
13I've never liked to do my hair because I have so much of it. I just put a black hair band on it and let it flow. I was all donev
14It is funny when they show old pics of people because I usually can point and say "Had that hair" and eww... "wore those/that" and then "what was I thinking?"
Earth Shoes, Farrah hair, blue eye shadow....and seeing it all coming back in style over the years is very funny. Who thought anyone would ever wear bell-bottom or parachute pants again?
Bump-its anyone? OMG...it is cheaper to tease your hair.
15"parachute pants"
Wow! I haven't heard those words in years. You know I had a black pair of those things. You know I like to watch that VH1 show called 'I live the 80's....I love the 90's' and so on. Those shows can take us waaaaaay back.
I saw a boom box on there that was HUGE. But back in the day we didn't think so. The bigger boom box the better
But nowadays it's the smaller the better.
Hey, remember those colorful jelly shoes that got your feet all nice and sweaty but you wore them anyway? Ah! What were we thinking inventing stuff like that
16Yep those "jellies" gave me more blisters than any pair of stilletos have.
17Those things could be funky in more ways than one.
Hey, remember this guy? We thought he was fun waaay back then. Now look at what kids have. DS is more than a whole new ballgame when it comes to kiddie toys.
18When my son was a lot younger and in boy scouts I was asked to provide a craft for the boys to do.
I took 6 paper bags and filled them with paper rolls from TP, string, straws, glue, tape, feathers, a balloon, paper, cardboard shapes, pencil, crayon, and a pair of scissors.
Breaking them up into groups, each with a paper bag, they had to "create" something from all these odd things. It was much harder than it should have been. It demonstrated that by giving our children so much, we have also perhaps stunted their imaginations.
They did eventually make things and this became a yearly craft afterwards. I know as a kid I had much more fun with often simple things.
19Everything is so electronic these days. Children don't go hands on as much as they should be. And adults are the same way. Take away all their tech items and they couldn't survive through most of the day.
20My husband is always telling me not to take short-cuts...meaning there is no need to simply "make-do" when you could probably get what you really need if you planned better.
21Having spent my whole childhood "making-do" I see the value in what he says....but then he also sees how much money we save when I get creative.
Women have always known how to save money when they have a family to run. Women know how to cut back and still make it look as if they didn't, that's why we usually have more money that men on the side. Men are concerned with saving sometimes but still they are not THAT concerned about saving like women are.
22With 3 teenagers eating us out of house and home I am remembering my mother's valuable tricks in stretching her $ and have come up with a few ideas of my own.
23These days single people have to learn to save that way too. I'm not buying something for $200 when I can get it down the street for $175. I like to shop around before I make any purchase over $100.
24On one hand I am annoyed with kids wearing their jeans so long that the hem is all frayed and icky....and on the other hand I am glad I don't have to hem a thousand pairs of jeans....so when I find them on sale but they are WAY too long I just shrug and cut them off to the appropriate length. They are going to wear them frayed anyway.
My grandma is probably looking down and shaking her head. She insisted I'd need to know how to properly hem a pair of pants. Of course she was right but still...I saved $10 by buying jeans that were too long and spent only 5 minutes cutting them down PLUS no sewing.
Life does get simpler in some ways we never could predict.
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